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səˈprēm
09-12-2009, 01:34 AM
now i'm not sexist but i have views that the man should be mainly the worker but still have family time and the wife should be around the house more and do 'family' things and maintain the house, not cook and clean all day every day but be somewhat of a 'typical american mother', thats just how i was raised and thats how my parents were raised.. now i can respect families that dont work this way, but it's really all ive been around my entire life

my dilemma: my girlfriend kicks my ass in every way possible

she makes and always has made more money than me, even in highschool she worked in the ER as something, while i was folding shirts at hollister
she has done and always will do better than me in school
she was originally in school for teaching, then she got a nursing scholarship, but shes blowing nursing out of the water, now she's going to be a something something technician at a hospital, but now she wants to go to school for her masters because she thinks school is so easy... her lowest ever GPA for a semester in her entire life was a 3.94, she still talks about it to this day
i took two years at a college and theres no way i could ever finish
she bought her car in cash up front, ill be paying mine off for a bit
she works out religiously and has since highschool, she was the varsity team captain for soccer when she was a freshmen
i worked out for 6 months and lost all motivation, quit football before 9th grade, and havent joined another sport since (does disc golf count?)
she can cook. i make ramen. sometimes a pizza.. in the pizza oven.

i have a macbook white, she bought a macbook pro
my family will talk to her for hours and ill sit alone in a corner crying bc nobody loves me
my grandma told me shes an amazing influence on me
when we broke up my parents still called her
she works 40+ hours a week, goes to school, goes to the gym, AND babysits her neighbors kids when their parents go out on most saturdays, on top of that, she is starting to learn how to play piano and wants to take up tennis

she can out drive me in golf
she calls me out when i try to win in arguments with my friends over movies or trvial bullshit

when she comes over my cats want to be by her, when i come home from work they act like i dont exist

she knows more about the brewers than i do
she likes to drink non-light beer, i drink amstel light

shes better than me in all of these ways, but we are probably going to get married, as it's been discussed a bit


wtf am i supposed to do? i suck at everything compared to her, and all i want to do is take pictures of cars, work on cars, smoke cigarettes, play xbox 360, make websites, and sit on forums, all day, every day

some day will she get sick of me? will i get sick of her being better than my entire life on a daily basis?

what's a man to do, stanceworks? ride it out? be the sack of shit boyfriend/fiance? find a sack of shit girlfriend/fiance so we can sit around on lovesacs all day together in a shitty apartment? grow a pair and start competing with my own mate?

dont even start with that cool story bro shit either.. this is really bothering me

Reichy
09-12-2009, 02:55 AM
fuk man. u think to much about nothing way to much. she sounds like a catch to me. so wat if shes better than you at stuff. i happens to everyone. my girlfriend is smarter and has a 100 times better job that me. but theres things im better at than her.
a relationship isn't about who's better at what. it a bout working together.

Russell_G
09-12-2009, 03:11 AM
What people do for a living or how much money they make has nothing to do when it comes to love.

I know cause my GF is a baller and a huge deal with big companys and she still likes me ;)


It bugs me too sometimes but i quit my job where i made about twice what she does because i ***** it. I would rather be happy and just be getting by then making bank and medicating (drugs and lots of them)myself to get through the day. I woke up after a long night of partying stung out and said i was done. I locked my self in my house for 3 days pitched my supply and changed my life. I cut up a project car i had about 50k in to and another one i had been working on, sold the other 2 that day. I used my dads car for a few days and put a beater truck together and moved on.... It was the best thing i have ever done. I make about 3k less a week and have money for bills, food, about 200 in play money a month and i wouldn't change a thing.

Being happy with you and the people around you makes it all worth it so if you two are in love to the point of getting married then i think you should be ok. For me i just have to feel like i can do it on my own. If she left me could i cover the bills with out her and if i can answer yes then im doing ok, we split it up put the rest in savings and that covers the $$
The feelings and the relationship other then money is on the 2 of you. Communication is key....My question to you is why are you talking on a forum about it rather then to your girl?

BADwayz
09-12-2009, 04:14 AM
Sounds like you got a catch there bro, you just need to stop overthinking about her being better at things. Love her for how great she is as im sure she loves you for all you are, and when you get married get a joint checking account ;)

gumballer_80
09-12-2009, 06:26 AM
If this is really bothering you & yet you haven't done anything to end it then I'm guessing you really care about this woman.
As has been said, she sounds like a catch & someone that you can always rely on for anything.

My advice; don't let materialistic things such as money get in the way of how you truly feel about this woman. You may very well regret it one day...

M.Burroughs
09-12-2009, 06:53 AM
Live. Love. Low.

SeanDub
09-12-2009, 11:15 AM
I read the first few sentences, and lost interest.


Sack up and do better.

DriftGirl
09-12-2009, 11:47 AM
relationships shouldnt be competitive. she obviously loves u for who you are if you're getting married.

Improving ones self is always great....when you do it for yourself.

my BF finally asked me to teach him heel-toe technique....its never too late ;)

Ficarra
09-12-2009, 12:16 PM
Self improvement is masturbation. She obviously doesn't care.

+1 to talking about it with her instead of on a forum.

bataangpinoy
09-12-2009, 03:04 PM
start working out with her.

TheNeek
09-12-2009, 03:24 PM
Learn oragami and show her what's up!

Don't fret so much. If you love her than you can't think bad of her because she's 900 times more motivated than you.

SofaKingCG2
09-12-2009, 05:22 PM
I'm with most people man. You caught yourself a good fish. Honestly It'd bother me a little at first. But just be happy that your girl is independent and all. I mean so what she has a nicer laptop or can cook. I can't cook worth a shit, neither could my ex though. lol. but anyways. Just be happy that she made a good life for herself and that you don't have to worry about supporting her and what not. I mean she could be stupid, and you could have to pay all the bills and buy her stuff so she wouldn't bitch.

What I'm really trying to say is don't worry about it. If you guys have talked about getting married she obviously loves you. Nothing else should matter.

s4cr
09-12-2009, 05:34 PM
think this way: if such a nice girl wants to be with you for the rest of her life (marriage), why the fuck you need to worry?

obviously she saw something in you. And she doesn't give a fuck about all that stuff.
besides, life's a bitch. You newer now when you can loose job, welth etc..
So, basicaly. Don't worry and just be with her.

BADwayz
09-12-2009, 06:48 PM
Ive been thinking about your situation and came up with the perfect plan. Buy some male enhancment pills and a penis pump and do work...Because with a 12" cock, you can be as lazy as you want.

/thread

B Rod
09-12-2009, 08:14 PM
Dude, you've got it made. As far as motivation...smoke less weed?

Turbo2
09-12-2009, 10:56 PM
dude you have a great girl. stop worrying about it. if you keep think like that its going to get to you. pretty soon you'll be that bullshit boyfriend. just love her and do what you do best. enjoy life and have fun....life is to short.

Schieldrop
09-12-2009, 11:43 PM
I seriously don't see a dilemma here at all. This all sounds like more or less the ideal gf.
Would you rather sit around with a boring, stupid, overly dependent, insecure, uninteresting, lazy, untalented and bitchy girl that your family hates???
For god sake dude, suck it up and just count your blessings.
If anything you need to work on yourself, not trying to find faults in her.
Because this seems like a classic case of envy. And if you've seen SE7EN you'll remember that envy is one of the seven deadly sins.
Don't try to be better than her, instead try to be the best bf you can, both for her and your own sake.
Besides, she obviously loves you. If not she would've moved on by now.

schroedin
09-13-2009, 12:12 AM
Ive been thinking about your situation and came up with the perfect plan. Buy some male enhancment pills and a penis pump and do work...Because with a 12" cock, you can be as lazy as you want.

/thread

:rofl:rofl:rofl:rofl:rofl

B Rod
09-13-2009, 12:45 AM
I seriously don't see a dilemma here at all. This all sounds like more or less the ideal gf.
Would you rather sit around with a boring, stupid, overly dependent, insecure, uninteresting, lazy, untalented and bitchy girl that your family hates???
For god sake dude, suck it up and just count your blessings.
If anything you need to work on yourself, not trying to find faults in her.
Because this seems like a classic case of envy. And if you've seen SE7EN you'll remember that envy is one of the seven deadly sins.
Don't try to be better than her, instead try to be the best bf you can, both for her and your own sake.
Besides, she obviously loves you. If not she would've moved on by now.

Best real advice in the thread.

gnarlycreature
09-13-2009, 12:03 PM
My girlfriend makes me ugly. No really.

lespaulman16
09-14-2009, 04:33 PM
Ive been thinking about your situation and came up with the perfect plan. Buy some male enhancment pills and a penis pump and do work...Because with a 12" cock, you can be as lazy as you want.

Best advice in the thread, hands down.

Rhynolite
09-14-2009, 05:47 PM
Seems to me like you could benefit from some friendly/healthy competition with her.

Start working out again, ask her to teach you how to cook, get better at golf etc. I bet she'd be happy to whip your ass into shape and keep it there (in more ways than one :eyebrows) and teach you to cook and all that. I know when I started working out I got a lot of motivation back to do things other than working out. Not only is it healthy for you, but you'd get to spend more time with her. Win/win in my book.

BTW I learned early on that cooking is a good way to meet/keep girls around :alright

bjh102
09-14-2009, 06:09 PM
it sounds like she loves you but you dont like urself. well take russell's advice and change your life. all the things you dislike go change them.

now get off your ass and go to the gym.

BADwayz
09-14-2009, 10:49 PM
it sounds like she loves you but you dont like urself.



Ding!

Tuck&Poke
09-14-2009, 10:57 PM
what ever you do dont try to compete, if you want to do better do it because it will make you happy not because you want to show her up.

plus, none of this bullshit apparently bothers her or you would have been out the door a long time ago.